Resentment can be a cancer in a relationship. If not dealt with intensively, then it can destroy the relationship. My couples usually present with issues sounding something like, “He gets mad at everything I do.” Or “No matter what, I cannot please her.” When my couples discuss being upset and “picky” or “critical”, these are […]
Insight into Why a Person Cheats I have been a Marriage and Family therapist for over 25 years now. I have worked with countless couples and one of my current specialties is infidelity recovery along with helping my couples decide if they want to work through the infidelity or end the relationship. I am able […]
Navigating Your Loved One’s Issues Do you ever struggle with navigating your loved one’s issues? If you answered ‘yes’, then read on. We all have issues. No one is immune to issues. No one. I once heard issues referred to as “specialties”, which sound easier to navigate around, so I will refer to issues as […]
Quick Fix to Improve Your Mood Many of my clients ask me for the “magic pill” or the “crystal ball” to help them better their lives. There is something even easier and more “real” than those two things. It is being grateful! When you are upset or anxious or experiencing any uncomfortable mood, […]
Self-care is NOT Selfish I have been working with people for over 25 years now. A common trend I see much more prevalent in women than men is guilt associated with self -care. Men have an easier time engaging in their hobbies ( a form of self-care) as compared to women. So often, I hear […]
“Revenge, anger, and hatred are exceedingly low energies that keep you from matching up with the attributes of the universal force. A simple thought of forgiveness toward anyone who might have angered you in the past will raise you to the level of Spirit and aid you in your individual intentions. Forgiveness is really an […]
Blog-Who Controls Who? – Real Life Solutions Counseling, Inc. Who Controls Who? ~Are you Reactive or are you Proactive? “It’s not my fault! You made me mad! I had no choice!” Have you ever heard those words or even said those words? A person who says those words is ‘reacting’ to another person. You are […]
Why Can’t You Understand Me? Two Techniques to Understand Your Partner–Real Life Solutions Counseling, Inc. Understanding…something we all crave and need in a relationship. Why is it so difficult? As I have written in prior blogs, men and women think (very) differently. But one thing we all have in common is the desire to be […]
So I Have Decided to See a Therapist. Does This Mean I am Crazy? Congratulations! You have made a very difficult decision. You have decided it is time to iron out some wrinkles in your life. You now recognize that you are sick and tired of being sick and tired and that you’re ready to […]
Do You Talk Too Much or Not Enough?- Real Life Solutions Counseling, Inc. Communication….such a big buzz word now-a-days. How much is too much and how much is not enough? What kind of communication is necessary in a healthy relationship? What should we be talking about? There are numerous different topics of communication that couples […]
