One of the most common obstacles to intimacy is built up resentment. More often than not, a spouse believes they just are “no longer interested” in sex with their partner. Further exploration reveals unresolved emotional issues building up in the partner who has a decreased desire for intimacy/sex.
Discussing the “little things” which have not been addressed between the partners can help to dissolve the barriers. Often, a partner will report that they have attempted to discuss the “little things” but it has fallen on deaf ears. This can result in an inequality of respect and importance. Once a partner feels they are no longer respected or important, sexual desire/intimacy can decrease pretty quickly.
It is also imperative to point out that there is a difference between intimacy and sex. Sex is of course, the more physical act and intimacy can be as simple as playing Candy Crush or listening to music together.
It is common to have intimacy increase proportionately to an increase in sex drive. There is not necessarily a need to have one increase first as they usually occur simultaneously.
Many of my clients have benefitted from the book Mars and Venus in Touch by John Gray PhD. I utilize this book in my office to teach clients how to increase passion through communication.
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