We all know that relationships take work. We all know that relationships require compromise. Nothing new there, right?
It will also come as no surprise that in order to allow relationships to continue to improve and strengthen; we need to remind ourselves that two people are involved in the relationship. Just as you want your partner to make concessions and find the middle ground to accommodate your needs, they are counting on the same thing from you in return.
Often times I see couples in my practice who have let the concept of reciprocating slip from their minds. Nothing spoils an event or activity more than looking over at your partner and having it be apparent that they are there begrudgingly. If you are going to attend an event for your partner, make sure you are able to do it pleasantly. You would want them to do the same for you. Part of compromising and being involved in a healthy and loving relationship of two or more people is doing things you may not want to do. If you want to only do things that you find interesting then you may not be ready to be in a relationship.
Remember, you come from two different families with two different sets of expectations and hobbies. Working to show your partner that you are willing to compromise is something that can make your partner feel special and loved. It is essential to feel special and loved in a relationship for longevity and security. After all, that is what everyone wants, right?
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Laurie Shoats L.M.F.T.