Men Are Not Mind Readers – Real Life Solutions Counseling- Laurie Shoats LMFT

Men Are Not Mind Readers

Ladies, this one is for you.

Men, you can thank me later.

Please allow me to share some wisdom I have learned from being a Marriage and Family Therapist for close to 30 years.

Several times a week, a woman says something like this in my office. “He should know what I want by now.” “We have been together for so long that I should not have to tell him what I like.”

Well, I have news. And this is actually good news, trust me! Men are not mind readers. Imagine how awful it would be if they were!

Ladies, it is your responsibility to be assertive and communicate clearly the things you like and dislike. If your partner keeps missing the mark when it comes to where to go to dinner or what gift to get you then simply tell him rather than holding a grudge or worse, building resentment towards him for not “know what you want”, by now.

Women, for the most part, are more intuitive and in tuned to other people’s wants and desires. Men, not so much!

Rather than creating conflict in your relationship and sitting on the edge of your seat to see if he “gets it right”, simply verbalize what it is you would like. This is giving your partner the benefit of the doubt by believing he wants to do right by you and has no malicious intention of frustrating or disappointing you. He will appreciate this and fewer conflicts will ensue regarding this topic.

Do you have built up frustrations regarding this or need support to improve communication in your relationship?

Call me, let’s chat.

Laurie Shoats L.M.F.T. (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist)


Real Life Solutions Counseling, Inc